I think that, for the most part, we get holiness wrong. OK, it's defined as "set apart", but that can be a lot of things. For most "hard-core" Christians, it means I'm set apart by homeschooling, hating Harry Potter, not watching TV, voting Republican, homophobia, and just holding on until Jesus comes back to destroy this wicked world.
Hmm.
I think holiness has more to do with what we are turning toward than what we are turning from. What really sets us apart is our capacity for authentic faith, genuine love and concern, and hope in God as redeemer. All these things are only made possible through Jesus Christ and his transforming our hearts and minds.
I found this quote from Tim Keller:
Jesus’ teaching consistently attracted the irreligious while offending the Bible-believing, religious people of his day. However, in the main, our churches today do not have this effect. The kind of outsiders Jesus attracted are not attracted to contemporary churches, even our most avant-garde ones. We tend to draw conservative, buttoned-down, moralistic people. The licentious and liberated or the broken and marginal avoid church. That can only mean one thing. If the preaching of our ministers and the practice of our parishoners do not have the same effect on people that Jesus had, then we must not be declaring the same message that Jesus did.
I've gone to homes that have a welcome mat at the door and a ravenous pit bull in the yard. I think, oftentimes, that's what we communicate. "Oh, please, come on in, Jesus loves you. Oh, no? That's a shame, at least we tried!"
Here's what Paul had to say to people like this:
To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted. They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient and unfit for doing anything good.
OK, I'm done...